Identifying Shared and Conflicting Values

Objective: Recognize areas of harmony and potential challenges in core values.

Steps to Identify Shared Values:

1. Define Your Own Values:
   1. Reflect on what matters most to you in life, love, and partnerships.
2. Ask Open-Ended Questions:
   1. Examples:
      1. “What does success mean to you?”
      1. “How do you view work-life balance?”
3. Pay Attention to Non-Verbal Cues:
   1. Observe body language and emotional reactions during discussions about values.
4. Discuss Hypothetical Scenarios:
   1. Example: If one of us were offered a dream job in another city, how would we handle it?

Handling Conflicting Values:

1. Acknowledge Differences:
   1. Be honest about where your values diverge.
2. Determine Deal-Breakers vs. Negotiables:
   1. Some conflicts may be manageable, while others (e.g., differing views on children) might be non-negotiable.
3. Practice Empathy:
   1. Understand the root of your partner’s values and respect their perspective.

Key Takeaway: While shared values strengthen relationships, learning to navigate differences builds resilience.