Messaging Tips and Avoiding Common Mistakes

Objective: Learn effective communication strategies for online dating and avoid common pitfalls.

1.  Dos and Don’ts of Messaging:

  • Do:
    • Personalize your message—reference something specific from their profile.
      Example: “Hi Sarah, I noticed you love hiking! How often do you like to go hiking? 
    • Be polite, friendly, and concise.
    • Ask open-ended questions to encourage conversation.
    • Don’t:
      • Use generic messages like “Hey” or “What’s up?”
      • Overwhelm them with overly long or overly frequent messages.
      • Make inappropriate or overly forward comments.
  • Building Rapport:
    • Show genuine interest in their responses.
    • Use humor to make the conversation enjoyable but remain respectful.
    • Transition to planning a real-life meeting when the conversation feels natural and mutual interest is clear.

Common Mistakes to Avoid:

  • Over-disclosing personal information too early.
  • Neglecting to follow up consistently.
  • Being too passive—confidence is attractive.

Action Steps for This Module

  1. Review and rewrite your dating profile using the principles shared.
  2. Send three thoughtful, personalized messages to new matches this week.
  3. Reflect on your communication style and adjust based on your responses.