Decide exactly what you want in a man. Practice what is called idealization and visualization when you think of the perfect relationship for you. With idealization, you can dream and fantasize about the man you love and want.
With visualization, you imagine being in a relationship you have always dreamed of, which is now happening for you. You can see him in your life together and then visualize your entire life.
In both of these manifestations exercises, you have no limitations whatsoever on the type of man you can have, so you should put any problems, excuses, limitations, or difficulties aside for the time being and allow your mind to focus on that reality as if you were the most powerful woman in the world and you can have any man with any characteristics you desire.
Now, write what you desire on paper. Sit down and make a detailed list of every ingredient you want in your ideal man, just as if you were designing your own dream house in every detail.
Describe his background, values, temperament, desires, goals, ambitions, qualities, and activities he would like to do with you in his leisure time. Describe his core values, attitude towards marriage, having children (how many), financial responsibility, and career. Describe how you want him to treat you, if he is goal-oriented, a traveler, and date nights.
Begin by listing every quality and characteristic that your ideal man would have in every case:
- Describe his background and his family history.
- Describe his education, career, and his financial stability.
- Describe his temperament, attitudes, values, virtues, and sense of humor.
- Describe how you would want him to treat you, your children, and your friends.
- Describe how he would respond to adversity and life setbacks. What kind of moods would he have, or would he consistently be easygoing, friendly, and cheerful?
- Describe his desires and goals.
- Describe what things he would want to accomplish in life. How ambitious is he and if he is goal-oriented? What would be his likelihood of persisting through adversity and achieving success? These are the most important aspects of any person in determining their future.
- You should also write down the different ways, he would like to spend leisure time with you. What sort of things would you and he enjoy doing together?
- Example: Do you like going to restaurants, traveling to tropical locations, skiing in the mountains, running in the mornings, and visiting friends and family? The things you do together in your leisure time are extremely important in making up the ideal relationship.
- Describe his basic principles, his philosophies of life, his beliefs, his politics, his religion, and any other strong convictions that he may have since you are idealizing and fantasizing at this point. You can set the highest standards imaginable for the person you plan to attract into your life.
- Describe his attitudes toward relationships, family, sex, and children.
- Describe what sort of appearance you would like your ideal man. What is the height, weight, level of fitness, eye color, hair, facial features, and even male sexual parts? You can be specific because you can compromise on some things later. When you’re making out your list, be perfectly selfish.
- Describe precisely what would make you the happiest. The starting point of meeting and marrying the man of your dreams is to be clear on paper about every detail you can imagine in advance. You would be amazed as so many women have been at how closely your ideal man will fit your written description and he walks into your life.
Action Step 5:
- List the top three personal qualities that you bring to a relationship.
- Reflect on past relationships: what worked and what didn’t?
- Identify three qualities men consistently seek that you can enhance in yourself.
Work on being that lady that will complement your ideal man. If you are not that lady, start working on being that her TODAY!