The Importance of Fighting Fairly

Objective: Learn how to address conflicts respectfully and avoid behaviors that harm your relationship.

Key Principles of Fighting Fairly:

1. Stay Focused on the Issue:
   1. Avoid bringing up past conflicts or unrelated grievances.
2. Manage Emotions:
   1. Pause if emotions run high; take time to calm down before continuing the discussion.
3. Avoid Blame and Criticism:
   1. Use constructive language instead of assigning blame.
   1. Example: Instead of saying, “You never listen,” try “I feel unheard when we talk about this.”
4. Listen Actively:
   1. Give your partner space to express their thoughts without interruptions.
   1. Paraphrase their points to show understanding.

Key Takeaway: Fair fighting fosters mutual respect and keeps the focus on solving the issue, not winning the argument.